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For her and for others, having needs met can be fraught with unanticipated pain.
Another way of thinking about anxiety about receiving is that growing up the experience of being given to was followed by or accompanied by a rejecting attitude on the part of the giver.
You might think she'd be ecstatic at this long longed for situation.
However, for her (and she is far from alone) this recognition of expanded possibility is followed by a fear of receiving.
Anxiety about receiving I just met with a single, dating client who is discovering a special kind of relational anxiety.
The person she is interested in seems to be willing and able to meet her deepest needs.
An example is a mother who buys new school clothes for the child while complaining that getting the clothes for the child means there is not enough money for the mother to buy anything new for herself.