Online dating to meeting in person
You want to meet in person as quickly as possible because some people can have great texting chemistry but then aren't attracted to the person.” Online dating coach and relationship expert Damona Hoffman agrees.
When it comes to moving from texting to the first date, the sooner the better.
"If you're worried about your safety, have an afternoon date and have a friend check in with you or tell them where you will be and that you'll text them when you're home."Hoffman, on the other hand, does encourage reaching out by phone prior to meeting.
“I’m a big fan of the brief pre-date phone call," she says.
Since texting is a limited tool to get to know someone before meeting, should you consider other forms of conversation prior to the date? Chlipala says no — head straight into meeting in person, safely.
“In person is the best way to gauge chemistry," she says.
Don’t do anything you don’t feel comfortable with, since that feeling of nervousness may actually be your subconscious mind throwing up red flags your conscious mind is missing.
According to dating expert and licensed marriage and family therapist Anita Chlipala, the timeline should be more in the range of “two to three days, enough to establish safety but not enough time to know important things about them via text instead of in person.So, the question is, how long to text before having a first date is the right amount of time?Is it better to move quickly into the first date, or should you take it slow and really get to know as much as you can about the person via text before meeting face to face?“You want to keep the texting light, playful and short-lived before the first date,” Hoffman tells Elite Daily. Because texting creates a false sense of intimacy that may lead to oversharing, since “when you are getting to know someone over text, you inevitably end up sharing things that you would never say face-to-face.”In my experience, the longer you draw out the pre-texting, the less likely you actually end up connecting in real life.But as online dating expert Julie Spira explains, it can often just be because online dating is a numbers game.
“Since singles are chatting with multiple people at a time, after a few days, or a few weeks, the decision to meet will lose its spark, or your digital flirtation might find someone else in the process," Spira tells Elite Daily.