Self esteem dating
They may have had painful teen years of not being popular or pretty.
Boys may have failed to meet expectations of parents or had a bad father role model or a cold and unloving mother.
If these insecurities are reinforced by those around us as we grow from childhood to adults, we end up with low self-esteem—not a good place to be in a competitive, fast-paced world or in relationships, especially romantic ones.
If you do not behave confidently others may take advantage of this by criticising you making you feel worse.
Your manner is likely to make others respond coldly and this will damage your relationship with others further.
Perhaps they were “outcasts” during their teen years.
Looking for these causal factors is important, because you can gain good perspective and understand that those factors are not in your life now and need not be impacting who you are today. If an individual working on self-esteem is currently in a relationship, it is important to be honest about what behaviors that condition causes in relationships.
If nothing else, this should serve as a reminder that many people who perhaps had low self-esteem growing up overcame it and have productive lives and great relationships.