Separated wife is dating
A month ago, after 7 months of silence, she visited me and said she wanted a divorce.She’s been dating a man she’s hated all of the 13 years we’ve been together. She just changed her Facebook status from “separated” to “in a relationship” with that guy. However, I was contacted back in March 2014 they were seen together at a ball game. That’s why my emails, texts, voicemails have been ignored. So, I have counseling every week now, and I’m in a support group meetings every other week.When you start seeing someone else, it is like rubbing salt into your husband's wounds.Believe me, he will likely react to the fact that you are dating by making your life hell during the divorce process.Also, talk with your therapist, or see if you need additional counseling.Your letter clearly demonstrates anger issues, control issues, and that you’re in denial.I also recommend that you take a break from calling your wife, and her family, and to take this time to really work on you. This could lead to other behaviors that can potentially be harmful, so seek out someone to talk with, and how to manage your feelings and emotions.
However, after three years of separation, and there was no reconciliation on either of your ends, do you think that you should move on? Take some time to get your thoughts in order, and stop reacting. However, your wife doesn’t seem to think there is any attempt in reconciling or fixing your marriage.I’m sure that married couples who separate and have children together still keep the lines of communication open for the sake of the children.If only to be cordial and to share the responsibilities of co-parenting.But it is wise to hold off on the dating scene until after your divorce is finalized for a number of strategic, legal, and emotional reasons.Strategic reasons not to date before divorce Emotions are raw during a divorce.
At least you have a place to vent and share your experiences of what’s going on, and how you are feeling.